My first blog post was about how 
Taylor Swift ruined her hard-to-get  mystique  when she wrote love songs about Joe Jonas immediately following  their  break-up. One of my readers commented that Taylor is young and  need not  play hard-to-get. Yet, heartache is real for any woman,  irrespective  of her age. 
My clients frequently tell me that they wished  they'd read The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of  Mr. Right  by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider as young women. They  recognize the  guidance provided in this book could have saved them heartache and  confusion about men.
Selena  Gomez, 18, is actually doing a great job of playing hard-to-get and not  talking up a storm about her relationship with 
Justin Bieber, 16, to  the press. There are 40-year old female celebrities who could take a  page from her book. Sure, there are pictures of the two of them out  there, but 
Selena is not gushing in her interviews about him. Some claim  that she is using him for the limelight, but I'm not so sure. A few  article excerpts below will help prove my point:
Hollywood Life:  While at a party together, Justin and Selena "declined taking pictures  together, but took as many photos separately as requested. Selena spent  her time with many of the girls who were there, chatting about make-up  and other girly stuff."  
Celeb Dirty Laundry:  "Since Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez were rumored to be dating, the  twosome have been pretty mum on the topic of their romance. They have  never commented to confirm the rumors of their relationship." 
MTV Music:  After being seen together having breakfast, Selena downplayed their  outing and said "[I]t was pancakes. Who doesn't like pancakes?"
Very  true Selena; everyone likes pancakes! In fact, I add the syrup as I go  instead of pouring it all over the pancakes. Pancakes aside. . .
Why do I think that Selena is doing a great job of playing hard-to-get?
1. The  first article caught my eye the most. Selena gave Justin space when  they were at the event and did not walk around the party holding hands  with him, announcing to the world that they were boyfriend and  girlfriend. Instead, Selena kept her cool and talked to the other girls  at the party, enjoying time with her friends. She smiled at the world  and did not need his attention, even declining the convenient photo ops  that presented themselves. The hard-to-get girl doesn't need her man's attention all of the time. She is perfectly happy talking to others, appreciating all that the world has to offer. A man loves a woman who doesn't need him - it makes him want her more!
2.  Selena is earning a reputation as the girl who does not kiss and tell.  It goes without saying that being known for this, especially in  Hollywood, is priceless. Being so young and conducting herself with  class will take her far and make her career last. She comes across as  stable and very put together. The  hard-to-get girl does very well for herself when she acts as if there is  a ton more going on in her life than the man she is seeing. 
3.  Those who say that Selena is in it with Justin for the press might be  wrong. In fact, she downplays their relationship and makes it seem like  nothing is going on. Many teenage girls in Selena's shoes would be  thrilled to give the press a tell-all. Not Selena. She prefers to keep  everyone guessing. In the meantime, it looks like she is also keeping  her guy.
The only Platinum Pointer  that I would offer Selena is that she occasionally drops comments about  Justin that are a tad too friendly, e.g. calling him family and saying  that she loves him like a friend. Selena shouldn't use loaded words like  "love" and "family." This is especially true given all Justin has ever  really said about her is that she is "amazing." However, I have found no  articles that say he is using the "L" word. 
Nevertheless,  Selena is doing very well for such a young woman. If she continues to  keep her mystery, I predict that Justin and she will last at least  another year or so. Were they older, I think it could last longer.  However, he is 16, she is 18 and well. . . anything can happen. I think  she might even leave him. Either way, in Justin's eyes, Selena continues  to . . .